How Difficult Neighbours can be Handled, the Feng Shui Way

This is one of the questions that I am regularly asked. While there are things one could do to improve the relationships with our neighbours, hanging bagua mirrors on our doors facing them is not the one. On the contrary, this could make the situation much worse. In the East, it is considered downright offensive and in the West it often times causes confusion and suspicion of black magic at the least. The best thing you can hang on your door – if you must hang something – facing their doors would possibly be a figure of a white dove carrying an olive branch. As I mentioned before, our subconscious communicates through symbols and what can be a more peace bringing symbol than a white dove. Of course, you might find other symbols suggesting peace and harmony.

If you are living in a gated property with difficult neighbours, unfortunately there are no magic cures that will work permanently that I would recommend. It would always be helpful though if you are sleeping at a good mountain star as this would ensure harmonious relationships in general. If you are in speaking terms, you could try to communicate with them when you are not angry and upset. Explaining what is bothering you, listen to their side of the story and try to find the middle ground may not be easy, but it is definitely worth trying.

Please remember, this is the Humanity Aspect that constitutes a third portion of your overall Feng Shui. And actually the most vital part, regarding relationships. We cannot expect pleasant neighbours while we are harbouring negative feelings towards them.

The other two being Heaven aspect and Earth aspect. Heaven aspect represents the time dimension. That means your troubles with your neighbours can be changed, they can not last forever. Centre of your house being the reference point, see which locations your neighbours are in. You could see if you can improve the Qi quality by using various remedies for water stars, annual and even monthly stars in these areas. Use date selection for finding good days to communicate with them.

One could also activate auspicious stars in the garden as to improve the Earth aspect of Feng Shui. Or you could plant lovely perfumed flowers and bushes facing your neighbours that would generate lots of auspicious Qi. Let’s not underestimate the flower power. When all the three aspects of Heaven-Earth-Man work in synergy, the result would be improved relationships with your neighbours. After all good neighbours are very important. There is even a saying in Turkish “you are not buying a home, but buying neighbours”.

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